Rules of Domestic Discipline

In a domestic discipline (DD) relationship, which is a consensual dynamic where one partner (usually the submissive) agrees to follow certain rules set by the dominant partner, traditional rules are often established to maintain structure, respect, and the power dynamic within the relationship. These rules can vary widely based on the preferences and needs of the individuals involved, but here are some commonly observed guidelines:

1. Respect and Obedience

• Addressing the Dominant: The submissive may be required to address the dominant with a specific title like “Sir,” “Ma’am,” or another preferred term, as a sign of respect.
• Following Orders: The submissive is expected to follow the dominant’s instructions promptly and without question, unless those instructions violate agreed-upon boundaries or safe words.
• Seeking Permission: The submissive may need to ask for permission to do certain things, such as making significant purchases, going out with friends, or engaging in activities that are not part of the daily routine.

2. Behavioral Expectations

• Politeness and Courtesy: The submissive is often expected to be polite and courteous in their interactions, both with the dominant and with others.
• Maintaining a Positive Attitude: The submissive should maintain a positive attitude, avoiding behaviors like complaining, arguing, or sulking.
• Physical Presentation: The dominant may set rules regarding how the submissive should dress, groom themselves, or present their appearance, especially at home or in the presence of the dominant.

3. Household Responsibilities

• Chores and Duties: The submissive is responsible for household chores, such as cooking, cleaning, and laundry, ensuring they are completed to the dominant's expectations.
• Meal Preparation: Meals should be prepared according to the dominant’s preferences and ready at specified times.
• Home Environment: The submissive is tasked with maintaining a clean and orderly home environment.

4. Accountability and Discipline

• Daily Check-ins: The submissive may need to check in with the dominant regularly, reporting on progress with tasks and adherence to rules.
• Punishments for Infractions: Consequences for failing to meet expectations may include spanking, time-outs, or loss of privileges, all agreed upon beforehand.
• Journaling: The submissive may keep a journal reflecting on behavior, feelings, and any infractions.

5. Personal Care and Well-being

• Health and Fitness: The submissive may follow guidelines for diet, exercise, and self-care.
• Sleep Schedule: A consistent bedtime and wake-up time may be enforced.
• Mental Health: Activities supporting mental well-being, such as meditation or therapy, may be required.

6. Communication Rules

• Open Communication: The submissive is encouraged to express feelings, needs, and concerns to the dominant.
• Daily Reports: Reports may be provided to the dominant detailing behavior, thoughts, and challenges.

7. Boundaries and Limits

• Safe Words: Agreed-upon safe words ensure all interactions remain consensual.
• Respecting Limits: The dominant must respect the submissive’s boundaries and capacities.

8. Intimacy and Affection

• Affectionate Gestures: Rules may involve greeting the dominant with affection or maintaining physical closeness.
• Sexual Expectations: Guidelines around intimacy are discussed and mutually agreed upon.

Example Rules

Respect

• Always respect the Head of Household (HOH).
• Do not argue with or speak negatively about the HOH.
• Be honest and transparent with the HOH.

Household Responsibilities

• Make the bed daily.
• Vacuum and wash dishes every day.

Free Time

• Engage in approved activities such as reading, crafting, or exercising.

Grooming

• Maintain cleanliness and personal grooming at all times.
• Be smoothly shaved and dressed appropriately during the day.

Sex

• Fulfill the HOH’s sexual needs and requests.

Requesting Permission

• Request permission for purchases outside of groceries and essentials.

Inspections

• Submit to household cleanliness inspections.

Important Considerations

Consent and communication are key. All rules must be consensual and can be renegotiated at any time. Regular communication ensures that both partners’ needs are met, and flexibility helps adapt to changing life circumstances.