Domestic Discipline Boot Camp Punishment

Couples who practice Domestic Discipline likely already understand which punishments work best for them in their marriage, and how to apply them so they are most effective. It is important that boot camp adheres to the punishments and methods utilized in experienced couples' marriages, and those should remain the same. It is likely that experienced couples have a set method for doing corner time, a set method for doing bedroom time, and a set method for all of the other punishments.

When couples first start out with the Domestic Discipline lifestyle, they could just be shaping the way their punishments are conducted in order to achieve the best possible results for their marriage. The perfecting of this will obviously take a little while - quite a bit of time actually - which is understandable and absolutely expected. There are many nuances to domestic discipline in a marriage, and even the very experienced couple learns new nuances as they age together.

With all of that said, obviously punishments are a crucial part of boot camp, and need to be discussed. The specifics of how you and your spouse conduct these punishments are ultimately determined by the husband, but the following outlines are how I recommend these punishments be done.

Punishment #1: Corner Time

In the last section you setup the procedure for corner time, here is how this looks as a punishment (feel free to use this information when you create your rules later).

Corner time is when a husband has his wife stand in the corner of a room for several minutes, face to the wall. Corner time should be done in the same corner every time this punishment is issued, and the duration of corner time should be around seven minutes. The amount of time spent standing in the corner can be varied depending on the wife's compliance. If she recognizes her error and walks to the corner without hesitation, the amount of time she spends standing in the corner can be cut in half. If the wife begins to fight and becomes belligerent as soon as the penalty is imposed, an additional minute or two can be spent standing in the corner. It's critical for the spouse to stick to the punishment while also being fair in terms of the duration of the penalty.

To prevent any outside distractions, the wife should stand with her face to the wall. The purpose of corner time is to get the wife to reflect on her error and how she could conduct herself in a similar scenario in the future. It's suggested that her husband remind her why she's being punished and what he expects of her the next time she's in a similar scenario on her approach to the corner. That reminder will prompt her to consider the problem and its solutions, which is the ultimate purpose of any punishment. Some husbands prefer their wives to stand in the corner with their heads pressed against the wall or their hands on their heads. I'm not opposed to these suggestions, but they should only be used if the wife is having trouble concentrating. I can imagine having to do these things to keep the wife engaged if she is continuously turning around or attempting to exit the corner. Hopefully, it will not come to this, but any intricacies of the penalty, such as these, will be decided by the husband.

When the wife has finished her time in the corner, the husband should remind her of the problem and how to fix it one last time, and the couple can return to their original business.

Punishment #2: Bedroom Time

Bedroom time isn't used as frequently in boot camp, but it is available if needed. It also serves as a deterrent to corner time. When spouses refuse to cooperate during corner time, husbands must escalate the penalty to bedroom time.

Bedroom time is when a spouse makes his wife spend time alone in the bedroom to reflect on her faults. Of course, the spouse decides how long to punish, but most experts advise starting with 30 minutes and adjusting as needed. Like corner time, the wife's cooperation level should be considered while determining bedroom time. If the wife cooperates and accepts the punishment, 5-10 minutes should be removed off the bedroom time. If the wife retaliates or becomes stubborn after the punishment is imposed, add 5-10 minutes.

This punishment makes the woman reflect about her mistakes/bad judgment, so remove all distractions from the bedroom before it starts. Some couples have books or periodicals to read in the bedroom, some have a television in the bedroom, or other distracting elements that can deflect from the punishment. All of these distractions should be removed from the room so the wife isn't tempted. The punishment will be ineffective if the wife does not understand why she is being punished.

As soon as the wife has finished her punishment, the husband should go get her, soothe her, and remind her why she was punished. The pair can then resume their former business.

Punishment #3: Removing Privileges

Most Domestic Discipline marriages punish by taking away privileges. It's a simple and easy punishment to administer. In boot camp, removing privileges is done differently than most couples handle it now. All privileges should be taken away from the wife the night before boot camp. As part of the necessary boot camp requirements in Section Three, the wife must get permission to exercise whatever privileges she may have. This aspect of the boot camp isn't to educate her to be a dominating tyrant or anything like that – it's just to teach her to appreciate the things her husband provides for her daily.

Punishment #4: Writing Lines

Writing lines is a technique in which the husband instructs his wife to write the same sentence over and over again in order to make a point. The husband could, for example, ask the wife to hand write on a piece of paper why she has a bad attitude for a short period of time.

The husband would decide how many times the sentence should be written. This is more of a reminder for the wife to honor her husband and the regulations.

This punishment is mentioned because it can be used throughout boot camp, but the husband should only use it if he believes he has to. Boot camp includes a series of homework assignments that demand a lot of writing (more on that later). The homework assignments are not punishments, but rather writing exercises for both husband and wife. Because homework assignments require a lot of writing, writing lines might become ineffective as a punishment when there is TOO much writing.

Punishment #5: Soap/Hot Sauce in the Mouth

This is yet another straightforward punishment. As punishment, the husband would put soap or hot sauce in his wife's mouth.

When applying soap, the husband would gently grind a bar of soap (not liquid soap because it could be swallowed) on his wife's bottom teeth in a back-and-forth or in-and-out motion. It is not necessary to use a lot of soap to achieve the desired results. Three or four back-and-forth or in-and-out motions against the bottom teeth would suffice. Another option is to have the wife bite down on the soap a few times. If this punishment is used, it is critical that the wife not swallow the soap because it could make her sick.

The wife's natural reaction will be to spit it out or rinse her mouth with water. Even if she does these things, the soap smell will linger for several hours, or until she eats again. Even if the wife tries to get rid of the bad taste, the punishment will be effective. Before administering this punishment, make sure the wife isn't allergic to any of the soap's ingredients, and make sure she doesn't swallow it.

When using hot sauce, the husband would place a few drops on his wife's tongue, giving her a spicy burning sensation in her mouth. There isn't much else to say about it.

This is a punishment similar to the writing lines punishment. I advise the husband to only use it if he feels compelled to. It's another option, but due to its juvenile nature, I don't recommend it for couples on a regular basis. It is also less effective than other forms of punishment that could be used in its place.

Punishment #6: Spankings

Boot camp includes a lot of spankings. It's so big, in fact, that the next section will be dedicated solely to spankings.

Another option for husbands to discipline their wives during boot camp is to have them write him apologetic letters, complete various jobs around the house, or study scriptures/doctrine and make a "report" on what they've learned. There aren't many surprises in any of those penalties.

Other penalties, not included here, may be used by a couple as part of their Domestic Discipline marriage. He should add these personal punishments at boot camp if the husband thinks it's essential. In the end, he is the one who decides what sanctions will be handed out.

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